Marco Arment talks about how he’s stopped being such an evangelist of his tech choices as he grew older.
I choose to fit myself into most of Apple’s intended-use constraints because their products tend to work better that way, which makes my life easier. But that requires trade-offs that many people can’t or won’t make.
Previous-me tried to persuade everyone to switch to my setup, but I now know that it’s not worth the effort. I’ll never know someone else’s requirements, environment, or priorities as well as they do. I don’t know shit about Windows or Outlook or architecture.
You should use whatever works for you. And I no longer have the patience or hubris to convince you what that should be. All I can offer is one data point: what I use, and how it works for me.
I find I’ve undergone the same thinking, and I’ve been applying this not just to tech but other subjects I used to feel strongly about.
In my teens and early 20’s, I would get into rows with my mom because my neo-liberal University-educated cosmopolitan idealism clashed with her values. Which I now understand to be a product of her rural, less-wealthy upbringing, but which doesn’t make them any less valid than mine.
In fact, everyone’s values and beliefs are products of the entirety of their lives. Despite all this talk about an individual’s infinite capacity for freedom and choice, some people just can’t change how they think. That’s just the state of their minds are at this specific point in time, because they are uniquely wired in a specific way.
Once I’ve accepted this, I found myself more at peace with everyone else’s beliefs and decisions. Sure I still find some of them incredibly stupid, but that doesn’t frustrate me as much as it used to. They’re perfectly valid to them, and I can respect that.